Can sumbody help me wit my complicated love life...?

your bf is a pecker wood. seriously even if you dont get with the other guy, leave the one you're with. he isnt ever going to change, it will only get worse... and im sure you heard all this before so i will keep it short. i was in a relationship like this for 2 years. it starts off emotional, then gets physical. get out now before you end up a small piece of yourself. good luck with all that.